Being unsaved in campus

  I miss campus life in general , you are a free molecule being experimented by the university life from the day you are a fresher to the day you graduate, the only time you are reminded that you are a student is when the exams approaches, you literally lack space to to read from the idlers corners to library fully packed with students trying to cram and grab some few knowledge for the exam purpose which loses meaning after exam and normalcy begins.
  We were in a lecture room and our lecturer Mr Kiage was taking us through a presentation, then out of nowhere he pops up the question "who are saved in this class?" it was rather unusual and unexpected question, shyly some few staunch Christian Union members raised their hands, not knowing what the next statement was. As usual he did not miss an answer or response.."kindly "unsave" yourselves as from today,you are in campus and if you don't experience some of the life here woe unto you, middle life crisis will hit you like lightening". go out explore drink dance and mingle with the opposite sex..after graduating and working it hit me that the old man had sense in what he told us,  . I don't yearn to go to clubs anymore unless with friends but its always in moderate, unlike if i could hold back and resist the urge of partying with my comrades.

Am not advocating for guys to be unsaved but life is short  enjoy the moments and have fun.

Pascal

Top 10 Deathbed Regrets:

Top 10 Deathbed Regrets:
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life other people expected of me.
2. I wish I took time to be with my children more when they were growing up.
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3. I wish I had the courage to express my feelings, without the fear of being rejected or unpopular.
4. I wish I would have stayed in touch with friends and family.
5. I wish I would have forgiven someone when I had the chance.
6. I wish I would have told the people I loved the most how important they are to me.
7. I wish I would have had more confidence and tried more things, instead of being afraid of looking like a fool.
8. I wish I would have done more to make an impact in this world.
9. I wish I would have experienced more, instead of settling for a boring life filled with routine, mediocrity and apathy.
10. I wish I would have pursued my talents and gifts.
―contributed by Shannon L. Alder, author and therapist

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April fools day lwandeti village

#‎Fools_day‬. This day was taken very seriously during our days, and it was legal to extort people using your tongue. not these games kids play nowadays
In lwandeti, my home city, the biggest shop keepers 'Oyuko lwandeti stores' and mzee chivui lumakanda stores could not sell on credit until 1300hrs, and if they did they were at the mercy of their customers if you could report any incidence to the chief he could not listen to  you should have known better they said.
The problem is, even genuine cases were not served on this day I remember the only barber in town  lumbasi  refused to work on my head after spending my hard earned 1bob to get that panda razor blade.

There is always no ideal person in relationships.........

I posed a question to some of my friends about the ideal person  in a relationship, the one with all complements and attributes and from the feedback i realized that there is no such person,    

We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems the ones ...that make you truly who you are—that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: it's got to be the right wrong person someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have."

The problem is, stop looking for that person. Turn your attention inward, fall in love with yourself in a real way. The person you want will not come along until you do. Oh, and stop seeking perfection. It doesn't exist.

You love that person so much that even though everything is wrong, you feel that it is the right thing to do.

There is no such thing as ideal man or woman. Love someone and make him your ideal one. That is one of the secrets to a happy relationship.

All you have to do is find what is wrong in you and look for what should be right. In this world, right things come out when wrong things show up. They reveal themselves as a pair, just like the person you are trying to look for. Whenever you are wrong, someone else is right, but both of you are wrong in some way and right in another way. Just seek yourself more before seeing another   

love from different perspective

Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets inside you and rips you apart pain. I hate love

Don't hate love frown emoticon I've had my heart squashed into a pulp recently, but I know that it's worth it. You might feel that way because you find it necessary to build up the armor in the first place—but making yourself vulnerable and opening up your heart with warm arms is what makes love beautiful, even if it hurts a lot sometimes. The happiest I've ever been is when I'm giving myself to a person I love, and I think it's bullshit when people try to guilt you into feeling that "you should learn how to be just as happy when you're single." Everyone loves differently. Yeah, I can be happy and content with my own life. I don't have any shame, though, in saying that I'm happiest when I share my heart.

 Love can hurt, and the people who give up on it hurt more. Love is not a fleeting moment, it's a hot ballooning fire that quenches and begs your soul. You must feed that fire with the wood of your words and actions, neglect that tinder and all crumbles to ash. As long as there is that "wood" and a modicum of selflessness and awareness love can be eternal. Never stop looking for your eternal.

Love is not the enemy. Love is rather beautiful, if you know how to apply it. Love faults when one does not know how to love or what love is but falsely awakens it inside of you... Vulnerable "love" allows access to your mind, if his/her intentions are bad, unhealthy and selfish, the love will struggle to prosper, your natural instinct, feeling and observation will pick up on words and actions and you'll begin to wonder why you're uncomfortable, why you're unhappy, why you're hurting. If his/her intentions are genuinely honest and safe, a trusting and comforting bond can be built naturally. You'll feel positive, overwhelmed, supported, important, secure... Love doesn't hurt, people hurt one another when they lose the vision of love and appreciation. Sometimes we have to experience bad to know what good is. 

 
But most importantly, love begins with you. How can you love someone else If you don't love yourself? Self love should be your armour and shield through anything and everything.
Don't lose focus of yourself and don't let anyone change your perspective on love because they weren't capable of loving you. Learn from the past, keep an open mind, keep an open heart, focus on yourself and the wonderful opportunities ahead. 

Puzzle of love life

We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems—the ones that make you truly who you are that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: it's got to be the right wrong person someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.” I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.
Pascal