love from different perspective

Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets inside you and rips you apart pain. I hate love

Don't hate love frown emoticon I've had my heart squashed into a pulp recently, but I know that it's worth it. You might feel that way because you find it necessary to build up the armor in the first place—but making yourself vulnerable and opening up your heart with warm arms is what makes love beautiful, even if it hurts a lot sometimes. The happiest I've ever been is when I'm giving myself to a person I love, and I think it's bullshit when people try to guilt you into feeling that "you should learn how to be just as happy when you're single." Everyone loves differently. Yeah, I can be happy and content with my own life. I don't have any shame, though, in saying that I'm happiest when I share my heart.

 Love can hurt, and the people who give up on it hurt more. Love is not a fleeting moment, it's a hot ballooning fire that quenches and begs your soul. You must feed that fire with the wood of your words and actions, neglect that tinder and all crumbles to ash. As long as there is that "wood" and a modicum of selflessness and awareness love can be eternal. Never stop looking for your eternal.

Love is not the enemy. Love is rather beautiful, if you know how to apply it. Love faults when one does not know how to love or what love is but falsely awakens it inside of you... Vulnerable "love" allows access to your mind, if his/her intentions are bad, unhealthy and selfish, the love will struggle to prosper, your natural instinct, feeling and observation will pick up on words and actions and you'll begin to wonder why you're uncomfortable, why you're unhappy, why you're hurting. If his/her intentions are genuinely honest and safe, a trusting and comforting bond can be built naturally. You'll feel positive, overwhelmed, supported, important, secure... Love doesn't hurt, people hurt one another when they lose the vision of love and appreciation. Sometimes we have to experience bad to know what good is. 

 
But most importantly, love begins with you. How can you love someone else If you don't love yourself? Self love should be your armour and shield through anything and everything.
Don't lose focus of yourself and don't let anyone change your perspective on love because they weren't capable of loving you. Learn from the past, keep an open mind, keep an open heart, focus on yourself and the wonderful opportunities ahead.